A Woman's Worth
written by Rev. PNo
June 04, 2009
Proverbs 31:10
"...She is worth far more than rubies."
He is late to work, always falling down on the job or employed by someone else. Does this describe those who have been fired from a relationship with you? I'm talking about brothers who are either not real men or they are someone else's man. One comes right off the unemployment line looking for a job while the other has a good resume but is already employed. Sound familar?
Your desire for real love has you holding up the help wanted sign. So you interview the brother who is looking for the job and decide to hire him because he got that swag. You know the look, the ride and some change. At first he was good with a few tasks but later he could not handle the responsibility of the overall project. In other words he could take you places but was unable to place you in his care. So you fire him. Sound familiar?
Then you have the brother that just shows up. He is not looking for a job but has the right qualifications however there is one problem. He's already employed. Not part-time but full-time. Your mind says naw but your heart says yeah because you are feelin the way he treats you. So you roll with it. You keep it secret because you know it aint right. But you come back to your senses when he stops holding it down with you because he is working extra hours at the full time job. So you end it. Sound familiar?
The search for real love continues to end with a broken heart. An endless cycle of attracting the same kind of people. You're frustrated and like the words of Keisha's song you say:
"No more will you be the oneThat's what you tell everyone around youBut you know they've heard it all beforeWhat more can you say"
Want something different? Want real love? That which is heaven sent? Then you will need to first embody the characteristics of a woman that deserves to be loved. What kind of woman is that? One that is
"...worth far more than rubies"
She is valuable. She is priceless. She is worthy of love. In other words, who she is dictates how she is valued. Who is she? A woman that is:
You may be saying these are the characteristics of a wife. True but she had these traits before she was married. The verse recalls from memory the conversation a son had with his mother when she asks
"who can find....".
This means that she didn't become but already was by the time he found her.
Embodying the characteristics will force you to stop making relationship mistakes. How? Think of it this way. A friend refers you to a beautician. After spending hours at the shop you realize that your hair aint right. So you say to yourself " I aint letting her touch my head again". Why? Because you value how you look when your hair is done.
When you are worth far more than rubies you stop giving yourself away to men that have no intentions on treating you as priceless! So stand in the mirror. What do you see? Not just on the outside but on the inside. Now ask yourself the question, are you worth being found? Then live like it!
Next - Evaluating (hints on choosing a good brother)